Just call me Elaine
My medical chart now officially says “Difficult”. My doctor was back to insisting on seeing me weekly and I was back to refusing. She finally said she would simply put in my chart that despite her advice, I refused to come in next week. Uh-oh. Do you think that will end up in my permanent record from high school? Everything looks good with the baby. Still no definite girl/boy shots but the quick view we had led my doctor to again speculate that it might be a girl.
I’ve been getting threats requests for one of those humiliating belly shots. I can’t believe I am going to do this on the internet but my sister has threatened to call my husband for one if she doesn’t see something soon. So for her and all of those emailing and saying “pretty please” here we go. I cropped it so no one can say I look “cute” or anything like that. I’m not fishing for compliments – I’m satisfying everyone’s curiosity. I’m turning into a whale and I don’t need the internets to tell me otherwise, m’kay? Thanks.
First, a shot to prove that when wearing my former fat clothes current “maternity” wear, I just look like I’ve been on a long ice cream sandwich bender. This is 20 weeks and a couple of days:
Here is the money shot. I can’t guarantee how long I will leave these up so point and laugh while you can. (And I’ve never had an ass…it isn’t a pregnancy thing, just a sad piece of genetic code inherited from both of my parents. So the part sticking out would be the stomach not the butt as on normal folks.)
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Lastly, I do need an opinion from the great, wise internet realm. My husband has twice in the past 2 days mentioned that he needs to shed some of his winter pounds. While I support this endeavor, it bothers me to hear him discuss it. I’ve told him that I think it is insensitive when I am watching myself expand daily to discuss his desire to lose weight. He thinks I am being irrational because the discussion has nothing to do with me (doesn’t he know everything has to do with me when I am knocked up?). I say it just reminds me how out of control I feel over what is happening to my body. So, be honest, am I being silly for being sensitive about this or is he just not getting it?
no you are not being overly sensitive. you are being hormonal, which comes with pregnancy. btw, you barely show in those jeans. How far long are you? I thought you were going to show me a huge bare belly. I know to you, you probably seem like you ate a cow, but really, it hardly shows. oh, and i have a huge ass, you dont want one.
I agree. You aren’t being overly sensitive. My dh did the same thing when I was pregnant last year. At first I was mad because he could workout and do something about his weight while I just had to sit and get bigger and bigger. Then I got over it and offered to eat just about ANYTHING he wouldn’t. I am also not a huge fan of working out, so I decided to enjoy the excuse while I had it. Besides, I think you will be surprised how quickly the weight will come off after you have the baby.
Oh yeah, you don’t look very big at all in the pictures, and I am sure the vertical stripes aren’t hiding that much :)!
I do remember the “frumpy” stage of pregnancy well. I didn’t show (to people who didn’t know I was pregnant) until the 3rd trimester. I was in a maternity store, and the salesidiot remarked that I didn’t look pregnant. I informed her that this was NOT a compliment. My mother was mortified. LOL I went home and stared at my bare pregnant belly.
On the heels of that hypocritical note, I do think you are being a tad sensitive. You are getting bigger, but you have a BABY in there. And really, his wanting to lose weight has nothing to do with you. Now if he ever complains about how in the world is he supposed to eat all this sushi and drink all this wine while soaking in the lovely hot tub simultaneously smoking then he’s being insensitive. 🙂
Oversensitive? Hmm… The thing is that the expanding body due to pregnancy is totally different than being overweight. Pregnant bellies are supposed to get big. It’s a good thing. I think you hit it more on the head when you mentioned being out of control and it’s more about that than anything else. Maybe you guys can start walking together so that he can lose some weight and you can keep you weight gain to the appropriate amount.
Good luck!
Kerri and Ruby
How about he takes on a “healthier lifestyle” and if she sheds pounds in that process, so be it. AND, remember when SHE (huh—I told you from the get go–drama queen) comes out of that belly you loose a bunch of weight all at once. You can rub that in his face! But, I totally get where listening to people talk about weight loss gets to you. My “BF” bragged about it all through my pregnancy with Krista. I was tempted to slap her!!
So, I see the pics, but I don’t see the belly. You are doing great. Your Dr. should try telling you that!
I think you are being a little too snarky towards dh…just being honest. I think you look great but feel your pain about not fitting into pregger clothes quite right.
I wanted to KILL MY HUSBAND DEAD when he announced he was going to be training for a marathon while I was pregnant. Nice empathy, a-hole!
Err. Still appear to have lingering issues with this. It irritates me intensely that men can go about their lives as usual for 9 months and still get the same baby we do at the end. BAH.
Anyway, I’m with you.
I totally love your shirt! And I can’t comment on the rest because I’m right there with you and I have my total poor attitude lately with…. well… just about everything to show for it. Generally speaking.
So I was trying to lose weight cause I heard it might help us get pregnant (even though the fertility doc said no correlation–I didn’t believe her). So my husband and I going are wogging every night (wog=faster than a walk, slower than a jog). After about 2 weeks of this my husband says, “Oh by the way, did I tell you that I lost 7 lbs?” “That’s nice,” I said in a voice dripping with sarcasm as I had not lost an ounce. “What?” He asked, “I thought that would inspire you.”
Oh. my. god. Had he never encountered a dieting woman before??? ME losing weight inspires me. HIM losing weight just peeves me!!!
Color me co-dependent but I say he should keep his struggles AND his successes to himself!!!
Come on…lets see the actual belly! That’s the cutest part of pregnancy!
You are not being over sensitive… He is just being a man!
HAHAHA…
Now… as Mandy says… REAL BELLY SHOT PLEASE!~ It is fun~
First of all… UM cannot tell you are that far along. By then I was in a full out waddle and it was obvious what was in my belly.
Second… if while prego my hubby desired to lose weight and discussed it with me regularly, I would stuff Peanut Butter cookies down his throat in his sleep!!!
Kudos for him wanting to be healthy… but keeping it on the “down-low” right now is the way to go if he wants to make it 20 more weeks plus the after time when suddenly your belly button misplaced itself.
oh elaine
how I love ye (and your new incarnation CHRISTINE)
back to you Michelle 🙂
I hate to say it but yes.
he can DO whatever he wants but as long as you are WITH (HIS) CHILD he may not bring it up.
so it is written.
so it shall be done.
Just torture him by eating cookies, cakes, candy, and whatever else in front of him. It’ll be fun, I promise.
And you? Look marvelous. Hardly showing, but marvelous.
For those of us who have never had a pregnant belly or never will, we want to see some skin!!! That is the best part.
Since going back to work FT and sitting on my ass all day it is getting bigger. Meanwhile DH is dieting and it’s working. Me on the other just pass me the chocolate easter bunny that way my mouth will be full and I’ll be too busy to bitch.
Belly shot..belly shot..belly shot…belly shot—Come on!!!
ditto the hormones. Hopefully he will be more senstive now that you’ve asked him NOT to talk about it anymore. He is just being a guy and didn’t mean to offend you I’m sure.
And, girl, have you considered looking for OB? That lady scares me and she’s not the one delivering my child. eek! Even if it’s a personality thing, there are LOTS of Drs out there and you have every right to shop around to find one who you are comfortable (and don’t have to fight) with. 🙂
oh and that was a belly shot? wheres the skin! 🙂
re: DH and weight loss i’m with him, sorry. i think it’s great he wants to do something healthy. however, i do not think he needs to chronicle his actual weight loss for you. but you know me though, i’m always going to cheer someone on that is making a healthy choice (blah blah blah.)
as for the bare belly thing- don’t let the peer pressure get to you. thin, fat, pregnant, whatever, no one on the internet is going to see me lift up my shirt for a photo. now if it’s summer and i’m outside, and part of a photo? that’s another story. you stick to your guns, sister.
Enjoy pregnancy and all that comes with it… including the weight. Some people NEVER get to experience any of it…
I didn’t mean to sound snotty in my comment above… but sometimes we all need the reminder (myself included)
In my humble opinion you are being a bit silly about your hubby’s desire to lose weight while you are pregnant. He wants to do something that is healthy for him and a healthy daddy is great for the whole family. Maybe I’m the oddball, but I loved being pregnant. Yes, sometimes I felt tired and big and just wanted to chug a beer (imagine that Michelle) but hey, its only temporary. Maybe I remember pregnancy so fondly because I now see just how much work it takes to raise confident, happy, respectful,(you add the adjective)….kids in this word. It was easier when they were in the cocooned in the belly. Having touted all the wonders of pregnancy I have to confess, I have no desire to see your bare belly.
well, I’m not a mom but I am a woman and totally see where you’re coming from. It reminds me of that commercial with the little cartoon man and woman and the woman talks about how they both stopped drinking soda and SHE lost 2 pounds; HE wasted away to nothing. You’re feeling out of control and to have him exert makes you yearn for that control even more. Totally understand.