Michelle Smiles

Teaching my children to question authority, except mine.

I love my child

January22

“I love my child.  She isn’t trying to make me insane.”

This has been my personal mantra for the past 2 days.  Sabrina has pushed every button I possess and tested every bit of patience and jumped on every last nerve.  Yesterday, it started the moment she woke up.  She started whining and crying at that moment.  She continued right up until bed time.  Today she had a happy morning but she has been crying almost non-stop since she woke up from her nap.

On top of her mood, she has recently begun testing her limits.  Up until a week or so ago, if we said “no”, she immediately stopped what she was doing.  Now, if we are saying “no” to her trying to play with the remote, she will stop actively playing with it but will keep her hand on it then look at us to see what we are going to do about it.  She won’t take her hand away until we get up to remove it.  She also used to come to us when we called her.  If she left the living room and I called her name, she would turn around and come right back in.  Now, she will completely ignore us until we get up to go get her.

She is a very willful and stubborn child.  I think the ages of 2 and 3 are going to be ugly.  (I can’t think of how ugly 12 and 13 will be or I might run away from home.)  As I tell Steve after a long mommy day, it is a good thing that she is cute!

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24 Comments to

“I love my child”

  1. On January 22nd, 2008 at 6:30 pm Kim Says:

    I totally understand how you feel. E started throwing fits at 9 months. We’re still working on them. Definately strong willed. Lately L has started testing limits too, thankfully she doesn’t throw fits too. Take a deep breath and hope that she out grows it.

  2. On January 22nd, 2008 at 6:34 pm jenn Says:

    LOL – I know how you feel! Em throws fits and tests boundries every single day! Sam was great until he turned 5…now, he tries to be Mr. Independent and he likes to make his own rules.

    The good news is they’ll grow out of it. I hope…

  3. On January 22nd, 2008 at 7:19 pm carla Says:

    chiming in here just to say the same…I swear it literally started on her birthday morning (2) and hasnt let up since.

    I CLING to love and logic’s line of (paraphrasing) “every successful person has some in her life whom she credits for her success…a firm but loving hand”

    by the end of our day I tell E “Id hate me too in your shoes” 😉

  4. On January 22nd, 2008 at 7:29 pm Julia Says:

    iF YOU ONLY KNEW;)

  5. On January 22nd, 2008 at 8:37 pm Alleen Says:

    ok, but count yourself lucky she does still stop at some point… try having the child who doesn’t stop until physically removed from the situation. Yeah, buttons I didn’t know I had get pushed.

  6. On January 22nd, 2008 at 9:32 pm Kerry Collins Says:

    Ditto. It’s as if you were talking about my own precious toddler!

  7. On January 22nd, 2008 at 9:33 pm Kim Says:

    Me too!! I say that about Alex all the time (the cute part). I just told DH last night that I might move out when Alex turns 2 if he is already like this. 🙂

  8. On January 22nd, 2008 at 9:48 pm elle Says:

    We all dislike our children at some point or another. Today I like mine. But gawd forbid he get ranch dressing on his hands. Then it’s the end of the world.

  9. On January 22nd, 2008 at 9:52 pm Emily Says:

    I can one up you. Myah will look at me, shake her head no, then do what she’s not supposed to be doing.

  10. On January 22nd, 2008 at 10:11 pm sonia in Mo Says:

    Lurker here… and wish I could tell you it gets better…lol! My Hannah is still going through this. But I have noticed that as she’s been cutting her molars the whining gets particularly worse. Anbesol works wonders 🙂

    Oh, yeah… and wait until she learns the word “No!” Life as you know it today will resemble a picnic when you look back…lol!!

  11. On January 22nd, 2008 at 10:16 pm Gail Says:

    Boy, I can hardly wait!! Let me know how you get through this.
    Gail

  12. On January 22nd, 2008 at 11:07 pm Andrea Says:

    I think it’s the full moon or something. K is cutting molars AND being willful child today. I knew poor T. was stressed when I got home from work-I was getting one word answers from him. Poor guy-he NEVER gets stressed out. I don’t think he has been so happy to see me come home 🙂

    And yes, Sabrina is VERY cute! 🙂

  13. On January 23rd, 2008 at 7:27 am Bobbi Says:

    You know, I tell Reese it is a good thing he is cute by the end of the day. WOW E WOW what a temper! And, push! It is hard sometimes not to laugh, because he will do the keeping his hand on it and just look at you like, “whatcha gonna do about it?” His latest fascination? Emptying the trash.

    Does she bang her head into things? Reese now finds soft things to bang his head and face into. A few bloody noses and eggs on the head helped that!!

    But, then I pick him up, and he wraps his chubby little arm around me, and says “SQEEEEEEEEEZZZZZZZZEEEEE!” and what can I do but melt?? Good thing he is cute!!

    Sabrina is a doll, and I totally don’t believe she can do that. She is too much of an angel:>)

  14. On January 23rd, 2008 at 7:38 am Soltana Says:

    Cerah will put her hand up (picture the talk to the hand move) and say no touch..BUT then does it anyway!!

    These kids… it’s a good thing we love them so much 🙂

    Hope you have a great day!!

  15. On January 23rd, 2008 at 8:35 am Jennifer Says:

    I’m right there with you! I am in the midst of the terrific two’s with a very strong willed (but oh so adorable little girl) and sometimes all that get’s me thru is remembering “this to shall pass…” Thankfully not all days are like this!

  16. On January 23rd, 2008 at 9:01 am Tessie Says:

    I get this. Things started getting harder with AD right after her first birthday, and she was throwing full-on tantrums by 15 months.

    Hang in there! She is clearly very smart to be doing these things so early! 🙂

  17. On January 23rd, 2008 at 10:11 am DD Says:

    When I want XBoy to drop what he’s doing (which could be his beloved gameboy or peeling himself from the TV), I use this tactic:

    “XBoy? I need your help with something. Would you come here, please?”

    Works (almost) every time.

  18. On January 23rd, 2008 at 1:29 pm Ashley J Says:

    I firmly believe that in every child is built a clock… and every 4 months the must test their limits ( too see if they are still the same OF COURSE). The do all the things theyknow they are not supposed to just to see your reaction.

    Stick with it sister… this is rearing in it’s finest!

  19. On January 23rd, 2008 at 2:39 pm artsweet Says:

    Oh boy does this sound familiar.

    Happy-go-lucky boy running around in his diaper.

    Detain Happy-go-lucky-boy because this is UpstateNY/theNorthPole and we need to wear clothes here.

    Happy-go-lucky-boy becomes boneless suffering boy imprisoned in abu ghraib by his cruel and heartless mother who wants? To make him wear CLOTHES.

    Rinse and repeat with next desire.

    My mom said to me the other day – they have no superego. You are their superego. And it’s not fun.

  20. On January 23rd, 2008 at 7:42 pm Steph Says:

    New mantra: “When the baby’s born, I can drink wine.” Works for me! (The wine, that is!)

  21. On January 23rd, 2008 at 8:26 pm mama k Says:

    Must be the age. Peanut has been on my last PMSing nerve this week. Today we had a screaming contest. Um, really mature, Mama! Ugh.

    On the plus side he is actually cudding with me for the first time ever. So I’m trying to focus on that.

  22. On January 23rd, 2008 at 10:37 pm starfish Says:

    Oh man, if I had a dime for every time I said “it’s a good thing you’re cute!”…seamonkey at 17 months now LAUGHS in my face whenever he is being told not to do something! You can yell, scream, smack his hand, spank him – he thinks it’s hilarious. And him laughing makes me laugh so I get no where. I’ll be watching your blog to see what creative ideas you come up with. Good Luck!

  23. On January 24th, 2008 at 1:11 pm SlushTurtle Says:

    I have a theory that God made toddlers so darn cute just so their mommy’s wouldn’t kill them. Hang in there. Soon she’ll be on to a new phase, and you’ll be wishing for this one back. 🙂

  24. On January 24th, 2008 at 2:55 pm staciesmadness Says:

    ah. good times.

    it DOES get better…eventually.

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