Michelle Smiles

Teaching my children to question authority, except mine.

Wild and Crazy Gal**

August15

It felt bizarre – I left the house tonight with no diaper bag, no car seat, no baby! It was rather liberating to realize that Sabrina isn’t actually attached to my hip. I had another blind date tonight – but this one was sans babies. In fact, I believe I was the only woman in the room with a child.

Steve came home and took over. I went to my first chick lit book club meeting. Discussion of the book consisted of – did you read it and if so did you like it? Then we drank wine, munched on goodies, and chatted. I had a fabulous time. No one asked me what agency I used. No one asked about PGN or previos. No one asked how Sabrina was sleeping or eating or pooping. No one even knew I was a mom until I mentioned it an hour into the gathering. As proud as I am to have the title “Mom”, it is wonderful to be seen as a person outside of that role sometimes. It would be so easy to lose myself, my identity, in this stay at home mom role. Tonight reminded me it is so important not to.

**Edited to add: I found the book club through www.meetup.com – enter your zip code and you can search for different types of groups. Some cities have more activity than others.

The book? This is a chick lit book club so the books are really fluffy (and not really worthy of discussion – hence our largely ignoring it. It was a book called Cyber Cinderella. And no, I wouldn’t recommend it.

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12 Comments to

“Wild and Crazy Gal**”

  1. On August 16th, 2007 at 2:51 am Amy Says:

    I feel you sister. At times, I forget my name is not “Mommy can I” or Mommy where is my” or “Mommy I need”. And sometimes I become confused because on the rare occasions that I am w/o child I catch myself feeling odd that it is just me. I was w/o her for far longer than I have been w/her so why does it feel so foreign now when I am w/o her? And even when I am out and about minus baby and I do not have this feeling, when we are reunited I am overwhelmed by how much I have missed her in her absence. Anyway, that is my random deep thought for the night.

    PS – What was the book?

  2. On August 16th, 2007 at 2:58 am jane Says:

    So what was the book? And would you recommend it?

  3. On August 16th, 2007 at 5:51 am Bobbi Says:

    Good for you! I have stayed home for almost nine years. I think that I need to do more of that. It is hard to not become just a mom and wife.

    So, how did Steve do? Joe always does fine, but boy is he glad to see me walking through the door!

  4. On August 16th, 2007 at 6:39 am Veronica Says:

    How did you find this book club? I would love to have something that is just for me.

  5. On August 16th, 2007 at 7:44 am Ginger Says:

    Glad you had fun. I bet Miss Sabrina was happy to see you when you got home. So, what was the book. Not that I have time to read these days, just curious;

  6. On August 16th, 2007 at 8:10 am Trace Says:

    That sounds amazingly like the book club I belong to. We joke and call it the food, wine, and social club. We rotate our meetings and hold them at different members homes on the first Friday of each month.

    When I first started going I was THRILLED to get together with a group of women spanning a large age group. The best part? No kids!! And an added bonus was that the majority had grown up children. For me it has been a respite from my friends who all seem to have babies. Don’t get me wrong, I know my time will come…

    What book did you read?

  7. On August 16th, 2007 at 8:19 am carla Says:

    that was my first question as well, jane, WHAT WAS THE BOOK??

    🙂

  8. On August 16th, 2007 at 8:39 am Elizabeth Bruno From FTC Says:

    That is so awesome you had a great time!!!!!!!!!!!

  9. On August 16th, 2007 at 8:52 am Melany (in TN) Says:

    Nice. I tried a book club last year but just didn’t “click” with the people like I did back home in Charlotte at a different one. I need to try again.

    I’m wondering too now, what was the book? 🙂

  10. On August 16th, 2007 at 9:11 am Alleen Says:

    I so need to find some kind of group like this or something. I’ve probably been out 4 times in a year sans baby…. sigh… Hoping for the 5th time next week.

  11. On August 16th, 2007 at 12:23 pm karen Says:

    Good for you.

    As much as I love being a mom, it’s important to do things just for you, too. I feel sometimes like I’ve lost my identity – especially since we moved. I need to do more for me so that I can be a better mom to him.

  12. On August 16th, 2007 at 3:04 pm Emily Says:

    I hope you don’t mind Michelle but I know your blog is widely read and I wanted to pass this along:

    Ok, Montel has a a show on adoption scams and of course there was a horror story ona Guatemalan adoption. I don’t know if this is a rerun or not, but please go to the website:

    http://www.montelshow.com

    Go to “the show” and there is a section that says “tell your story” on the right hand side that gives you 2000 words to tell your story. I told mine, please tell yours.

    Could be some good press for CQ and the horrible injustice there!

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